Have you ever found yourself in this position? Someone you love, perhaps a family member or a very close friend, has made a major decision on an extremely important issue that involves another family member or friend, and you find it to be absolutely deplorable ? No, check that, you know it’s absolutely deplorable!
To make matters worse this person expects everyone in the family or circle of close friends to not only support the decision but abide by the new relationship rules that now apply no matter how harsh they may seem. Now let’s say the family or friends are about evenly split on what they should do. Half of them immediately swear undying loyalty and are willing to do whatever it takes to show their support even if it means causing emotional pain and suffering. The other half have mixed feelings about giving their support and don’t feel that the actions being taken are justified or even rational, but they know that failure to do so will create major problems, anger and some extremely hurt feelings. There’s the situation in a nutshell. What would you choose to do?
Obviously the easiest thing for anyone to do, and what far too many people choose to do, would be to set your own feelings aside and simply go with the flow, citing loyalty or friendship as the reason for doing so. I mean why cause more problems and possibly run the risk of being ostracized yourself right? Sadly it’s a decision often taken much too lightly. A decision made quickly without taking the time to consider all the possible outcomes, or more importantly, if the action being taken is morally right or even warranted. This is a life changing decision being made here people! You can’t make life altering decisions based on loyalty, emotion or simply because its the easiest and less threatening thing to do. If it’s wrong you can’t go along!
So what do you do? You don’t wimp out, that’s for sure. You do the right thing. It may very well put you at odds and in the minority but you do it anyway because standing up for what you believe in is the right thing to do. You don’t compromise your beliefs. Standing up for what’s right doesn’t mean you love the individual any less, you aren’t doing it to be hurtful or cause any more pain. You’re acting out of love and taking a stand because you know it’s the right thing to do.
Think about it. What exactly do you give up when you throw in the towel and give in, even when you know that what is happening is morally wrong? Whenever you see something you consider morally wrong going down among family or friends and choose to look the other way without taking a stand, you loss a little bit of your self worth. Non action or simply going along is a sign of weakness, it’s cowardice, a character flaw, one you could possibly pass on to your children. No self respecting individual would dare to go along with something they believed was morally wrong. Standing up for something you believe in builds character and self respect and gives us a sense of well-being. Besides, it is always the right thing to do. Always.
I really can’t understand how anyone who chooses not to take a stand on issues that go against their faith, morals or personal beliefs can live with themselves. How do they do it?Certainly taking a stand for what you believe in is not an easy thing to do. It takes real courage to listen to that little voice inside your head that is telling you to take a stand, courage to speak out against injustice and to face those who don’t agree with what you believe or what you feel. It can be a very lonely experience especially when it seems that no one else agrees with your point of view, but you need to do it anyway.
We were all taught the difference between right and wrong. Taking a stand is the right thing to do. Looking the other way and letting an injustice go on is wrong, failing to take a stand is wrong and we all know what they say about two wrongs. Doing the right thing isn’t easy, but you have to stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone.