TBT Recollections of a High School Counselor: Make "Someday" Today

do-you-really-need-to-change-or-are-you-just-a-change-junkie-300x225Do you suffer from ‘Someday Syndrome’? At some point in our lives most of us do, and if you haven’t yet, you will. The ‘Someday Syndrome’ is simple a form of procrastination, you know, putting things off until you have a chance to get around to them ‘someday’. “Someday I’ll travel the world, Someday I’ll own a Porshe, someday  I’ll be my own boss,” yeah there are so many things we’re all gonna do ‘someday’.

‘Someday’ is akin to the Mexican term ‘Manana’ which literally means tomorrow. “I’ll do it manana, it can wait until manana,” but manana comes and goes and it still not done, because in Mexican culture manana actually means “not today”.

So my question is why someday, why not today? Why not right now? Don’t you realize that eventually those someday opportunities will have passed through our lives on this whirlwind existence of ours. Someday will morph into the sorry, cry of the defeated and unfulfilled who never had their day. “Coulda, woulda, shoulda,” will be your mantra. How many of those “coulda, woulda, shoulda, regrets are you going to wind up with? It’s a sad way to go out. I’m not saying to take your life and risk everything to get your someday now, that’s not it at all. All I’m suggesting is that when opportunity presents itself and there’s a chance to realize one of your someday dreams you should really evaluate it and if the circumstances are right, then go for it! Don’t hold back because you don’t want to rock the comfort boat or because of fear. If it truly is something you’ve looked forward to someday and it’s here now within your reach, then go for it damn it. You only live once.

I remember a conversation my dad and I had some thirty or so years ago. It was the summer just before my 30th birthday. my dad was 57 years old at the time. I’d stopped by the house and we were sitting outside talking about retirement when he told me his “coulda, woulda shoulda,” story. Seems he had some golden opportunities offered to him by friends that he had turned down years before for one reason or other, and they had panned out for them in a big way. I remember him shaking his head and softly saying “If I had only followed through, our lives would be so different right now.” I could see the disappointment in his eyes.

Around that time period I was entertaining a ‘someday’ dream of returning to college full time and changing careers, actually that isn’t entirely true as I had so many different jobs in my twenties that I had no real career. I suppose my career was job hopping. That talk I had with my dad actually helped to motivate me to getting my ‘someday’ plans into action. There was no way I wanted to be almost 60 with regrets like my dads. I didn’t want to be that coulda, woulda, shoulda guy, no way. Two years later I was back in school full- time pursuing my someday dream. Four years later I reached it. It wasn’t exactly the goal I had originally set, but It got me doing something that I love and have a passion for. I’ve been at it 25 years now and even though I do look forward to retiring in a few years, I still love what I do.

I still entertain someday dreams of traveling around the country more, but believe it or not, one of my someday dream now, which blows people away, still pertains to school. I have long said that if I was financially able I would go back to college and take all those courses of interest that I didn’t have time to take. but would have liked too, not for grades but just for the knowledge. Silly huh? I’m sure we all have at least one silly ‘someday’ dream.

I truly believe what holds most people back from achieving their ‘someday’ is a fear of change. Change is a scary thing, but we all know that change can be a good thing, it can be just what we need. Let’s buck the trend and get off the ‘someday’ carousel of comfort’, face our fears and plunge forward into someday, let’s make today someday, don’t wait until manana! Do it right now!

Because the truth is my friends, someday may never come. It can slip away with the passage of time or you might slip away from the here and now, you never know when your time may come. Life is fleeting and our days too short to waste. Don’t put your hopes and dreams on hold in the ‘someday’ file. Don’t wait until it’s too late to be who you truly long to be or to do the things you long to do. Stop saying ‘someday ‘ and begin saying ‘today’. Don’t be the ‘coulda, woulda shoulda guy,’ be the “could, worked hard and did it’ guy instead. Be that guy Right Now!

Just Saying,

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