First and foremost let me begin by saying I do not in any way, shape or form condone the actions of former Baltimore Raven’s star Ray Rice. There is absolutely no excuse for what he did to his fiancé in that elevator. I actually thing the guy suffers from SMS (“Short Man’s Syndrome”) He is one of the smallest players in the NFL, but that’s just me. Under no circumstances is it okay to hit a woman, be it your girlfriend, fiancé, wife, ex-wife, whatever, you just don’t do it. With that said I have to tell you I think the entire incident has been blown way out of proportion, not that domestic violence isn’t an important issue, I’m just sick and tired of hearing about Rice and the NFL.
Yeah I know I’ve probably just succeeded in upsetting women everywhere and for that I apologize, but all the freakin’ media coverage is out of control! It’s all we’ve been hearing about since sleaze televisions own TMZ released the elevator video last week. They sure love uncovering that dirty laundry don’t they? Yeah I’m sure the folks over at TMZ are still high-fiving one another for successfully stirring the hornets nest and bringing the Rice incident back to the forefront of the nation’s attention. Damn you TMZ!
I could sit here and ramble on about the video but why bother? Unless you live in a cave or some deserted island, you’ve probably seen it multiple times. He hit her plan and simple, knocked her out cold , then just stood there calmly and showed absolutely no concern for his fallen fiancé until the doors opened and he dragged her out of the elevator like a sack of potatoes. Is he a dirty dog? You Betcha! There’s no doubt about it! But didn’t we already know that? Of course we did.
We knew Rice was a low-life the moment we saw the first video (a video also aired by TMZ) of him dragging his fiancé out of the elevator. We already knew he’d knocked her out. He had already admitted to it and was charged with aggravated assault. He was offered a plea bargain by the District Attorney, agreed to it and was given one year probation and placed in a year long, supervised rehabilitation program for first time offenders. Legally it was a done deal.
Now the seemingly mild two game suspension handed down by NFL commissioner Godell for Rice’s violation of the league’s personal conduct policy is another matter altogether. Especially in a league where another player was suspended for an entire year for testing positive for marijuana use. Certainly Rice’s domestic violence offense is far more serious than the marijuana issue and obviously should have drawn a stiffer penalty but that’s on Godell. He made the call. Godell, in his infinite wisdom, chose to slap Rice lightly on the wrist. But once again it was a done deal.
Personally I don’t believe that the release of the second video changes the legality of the issue. It doesn’t reveal anything new other than the fact that Rice is a cold, heartless individual. Again, we already knew he had knocked his fiancé out as did the police and the NFL. Seeing Rice actually do it doesn’t change that fact. Right or wrong the situation had already been dealt with. Let sleeping dogs lie.
Under no circumstances is it okay to strike a woman It just isn’t right. And it makes no difference whether you’re some big time sports star, celebrity, public figure or just a regular Joe, the rule is still the same as when we were kids “no hitting girls!” Any fool knows that! As far as I know the hitting girls rule has always been in effect and always will be. I certainly grew up with it and my friends did as well. I’m pretty sure I’ve still got a few scars on my behind from my childhood run ins with my little sister. No she didn’t put them there, my dad and mom did as punishment for hitting her. She was so dramatic and really knew how to overplay the situation. I can still her shrill sing-songy voice crying out to my parents “Johnny hit me!” That was my cue to run! But there was nowhere I could run and nowhere I could hide from the justice of my dad’s belt! It always found its mark in the end. Literally.
Which brings us to the other big issue in the NFl right now Viking’s star Adrian Peterson’s arrested for negligent injury to a child. He could face up to 2 years in jail and a $10,000 fine. Wonder what Godell’s going to say about this incident. Wow, busted for disciplining his own son who was found to have ‘switch’ marks on him. I was raised in a home where hitting was the form of discipline most often used. I remember many a welt and I’m sure many of my friends do as well. Yeah it was pretty common back then to get your butt whipped and occasionally legs, arms and hands as well if you struggled too much. I don’t think my dad gave a second thought about going to jail for spanking us. Even schools were allowed to use corporal punishment on students back in the day. Yeah If I got a swat or two at school and my parents were notified you can believe I got far worse when I got home.
I don’t condone spanking as an ongoing form of punishment, but I do believe that when called for a good paddling works wonders and goes a long ways towards correcting the problem. It can also help children learn to be responsibility for their actions and that there are consequences for those actions.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child”…